(This post was written by Heidi)
Week 4 of 10 in the Raising Girls Series
- Week 1 – Cultivating Solid Self Esteem In Daughters
- Week 2 – Questions In Every Little Girl’s Heart
- Week 3 – 10 Life Changing things a Father can do for his Daughter
(See Raising Boys Series here)
We know that our words over our daughters are powerful and effective, that they mold her ‘lens’ through which she sees herself and the world. So how can we, as parents, ensure she gets the most positive outlook regarding herself?
Girl’s self esteems are molded over the years, there is no doubt about that. While we can’t control everything our daughters see and hear, nor always what affects them negatively, we can ensure that the input from our side is as exceptional as it can be. Our goal can be to make sure we give our best to them so that they leave home with solid self esteems and self beliefs.
Here are 10 affirmations/beliefs we can teach our daughters:
- I am worthy of love.
As Brene Brown phrases it in her book “You are imperfect, you are wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.”
- I am Enough.
Just as you are, before you accomplish, dress or perform.
- I am accepted and loved.
By a mom and dad, who are there for you every day, in a secure home environment.By extended family, friends and acquaintances. Make lists of these people. Sometimes one needs to see all that is ‘going for them’.
- I can do anything if I believe in myself, and put my heart and mind to it.
Life coach Stephen Light has twin daughters who say this affirmation about themselves each day. Powerful!
- I am passionately loved by the God of the universe.
“God loves each of us as if there were only one of us.” ~ Augustine
- I am unique.
Figure out who you are, and let that flow into everything you think, say and do.
Live from your heart, be true to yourself.
- I am captivating
We are captivated by what we find in you.
Jon & Stasi Eldredge’s book Captivating is a gem for understanding girls/women.
- I am delighted in
We see you and WANT to see you; in our home, in discussions as a family, on dates alone with mom or dad.
- I have a mom and dad who are on my side, who will fight for me.
- I was fearfully and wonderfully made.
Working on these together with your spouse, focusing on making your family unit secure will also work wonders in your daughter’s heart and life. Mould her self beliefs!
Next week: Building Confidence In Your Daughter